The B Side

Every record has an A and B side. (Group information at the end)

I was listening (and not judging) to a young woman who was sharing that at one point in her life, she was engaging in promiscuity (a.k.a. "wylin' out" - crashing out). Explaining it was the culture, "everyone was doing it." Multiple sex partners, swapping, group - all the things.

However, now she has been experiencing that part of life that isn't glamorized or told.

Science has shown that every action has a reaction. What goes up comes down; where there is a cause, there's an effect, and vinyl records have a B side.

The B side represents the consequences associated with the things we do and the choices we make.

Consequences aren't necessarily negative or bad; they are the residual or effects of the actions we take.

This young woman entered through the back door of a culture that glamorized the sexualization of women, mindless and lascivious sex, and group activities that pushed the boundaries without considering the B side, the effects on the soul.

She isn’t the only one. There is another young woman and a few young men.

We understand the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases, and somehow we still talk ourselves out of protecting ourselves (because we are in the moment), but at least that is talked about.

However, no one wants to hear how the soul transmutes during sexual relations. The soul - the mind, our will, and emotions. Transmute- change.

We talk ourselves out of these conversations; there is anger and resistance that emerges. We often get angry and claim to be judged when someone tries to talk about how we express ourselves sexually (to be honest, some folks do judge and are just as blind themselves), but the truth remains.

⭐️Just because we can do it doesn't make it beneficial, and just because something is an option doesn't mean we should take it. ⭐️

Every time we give of ourselves, in any way, we give a piece of ourselves away; what is the exchange? What are you getting in return?

An orgasm, a thrill, a moment of physical closeness, but what is the B side of that one exchange? What did you receive? You received something. And in the mix and heat of all this fun and freedom, do you know who gave it to you?

The way we are created as human beings, we thrive from homeostasis, a.k.a. balance. Our bodies seek balance and manage systems in this way. The spirit world (the things unseen) is that way as well. Men and women deal with this B side of sexual mismanagement much differently, but we both deal with the consequences.

As a counselor, I've talked to a myriad of individuals experiencing the effects.

The struggles, mental and emotional, and the physical ailments connected, are too obvious to ignore. The science backs it, and my personal experiences attest.

I believe in sexual freedom; and authentic expression, however, let's discuss what that freedom truly looks like.

‼️Starting a group this month for those who want a life of freedom without losing their soul. ‼️

I am an educator, but I'm also an encourager, and I believe in holding myself accountable to these things I come to know as truth.

However, I'll give you the information for you to do with what you want. If I get at least five men to reach out, I will begin a separate group for them.

This group is for people no matter how you sexually classify. You won’t be scared straight or condemned. Everyone deserves to be healed and whole. ✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿

Your heart will be kept safe.. with no nonsense.

It's time to expose the dark things costumed as life. Information will be practical; we will talk science and metaphysical matters.

‼️If you are interested in attending this group or if you are interested in volunteering, respond in the comments or message me for more information on the time and location.

‼️Share this message with the person that comes to mind. I will partner with other educators, mental health practitioners, and physicians who align with this message. Please reach out. 🌟

Moved by Compassion,

Tametra

Aka Coach T